CHM Therapy Services
Throughout your life, you will face various challenges and stressful situations, it is something that everyone can expect. Stress is something that is relative to your own experiences, so what may be stressful for one person may not be for another. The hardest part of coping is admitting when you need help, when it all gets too much for you to handle.
As a society, we all expect so much from ourselves; we juggle work, family, friendships and relationships. We try to find time to do what we must and if we are lucky, we might find time to do what we enjoy. But when life becomes busier than usual, the first thing that we lose is ourselves.
In the mental health field, a problem is only a problem by how much it influences your life, or in the case of children, how much it influences the family day to day life. Often we feel that the challenges we face should not be so difficult to deal with, we can feel that we must be broken or not good enough because everyone else deals with these kinds of things and other people have it a lot worse.
Therapy is a commitment to ourselves which allows us the acknowledgement that life is off kilter, and supports our need to regain control over our own lives. Therapy is a commitment to personal growth and learning. It is a place where time is devoted understanding and exploring ourselves, our motivations, values, interests, needs, desires, and dreams.
A therapist has many roles: confidant, mentor, coach, and often just someone to hear us, to hear the stories of our lives, to acknowledge the challenges that we face and to believe in us, to believe that we have the strength to persevere. The ultimate goal is to ensure that in life we thrive in time when often it is all we can do to survive.
Throughout history, people have shared with each other through storytelling. It was a way to share and celebrate your own successes and those of others, for children it was a way to learn valuable life lessons and a way to pass on valuable advice from others who have survived the challenges we may be facing. But somehow collectively we've forgotten how to listen to each others stories and the importance of telling our own. Therapy is a place to share your story. It is not about being told what to do, what you do wrong or where to go next, but rather it is an affirmation of what we already know deep within ourselves.
I believe that the core of each human being is strong and peaceful and capable and, as each person works through their challenges and is able to connect with their core and other people, the journey of life and the challenges they face become easier to handle. It is my belief that each person has a unique life path with different challenges. Overcoming challenges can help a person connect with self at a deeper level and realize what a gift they are to humanity and how special each and everyone is.
You are exploring the idea of psychotherapy either for yourself or for someone you are concerned about. Even people who consider themselves to be relatively strong, successful and happy may go through periods of particular stress or upheaval when they are stretched beyond their own capacity. At these times, therapy may provide help.
SO how long does therapy last? Well therapy can be short term or long term depending on their need and purpose. Help in facing and working through immediate issues such as divorce, anxiety, childrens issues, a health crisis or a relationship breakdown may need to be only relatively short term. While other issues such as depression, anxiety, chronic stress, lack of meaning in life, difficulty in handling anger, unhealthy patterns of relationships at work or in ones personal life may need to be worked with for a longer time.
As a therapist, I tend to work from a solution focused approach, focusing on current issues and stressors. Past issues may need to be explored, because these old experiences may go back as far as earliest childhood and ones first attachments. They may have a deep impact on us and influence how we handle our current life and they can set the pattern for how we feel about ourselves and how we relate to others. But, ultimately, I dont believe in dwelling on the past because it is for our present and future selves that we come to therapy.
The first step is asking for help, finding a therapist with whom you can connect is vital, you will be sharing a deeply private par of yourself and you must be confident that the person you work with will hold your fears, insecurities and successes in the greatest confidence. I hope that I can be that person for you.
Candice Hamilton-Miller, R.P. M.Sc.
With a Bachelor’s Degrees in Psychology from the University of Cape Town in South Africa and another from York University here in Canada; and a Master’s Degree in Family Relations and Human Development from the University of Guelph, Candice brings experience and in-depth knowledge to her treatment plans. She also has specialized training in Play Therapy, Family Therapy and Sex Therapy Techniques.
Candice has worked internationally with children and families for over 20 years, as a non-regulated Mental Health Professional and now as a Registered Psychotherapist Through various roles in the social service and health sectors over the years, she has supported families and children with special needs, including Autism and Speech and Language problems, families new to Canada and children, adolescents, adults and families dealing with Mental Health concerns including Depression, Anxiety and ADHD.
Candice is a member of various self regulating associations including the Ontario Association of Counsellors, Consultants, Psychometrists and Psychotherapists; the Canadian Association for Child and Play Therapy; and the Ontario and American Associations for Marriage and Family Therapy. She is a registered Psychotherapist with the College of Registered Psychotherapists of Ontario.